Ten Point Program for happy Families
Dada Vaswani, head of Sadhu Vaswani Mission is a
great Philanthropist, Philosopher, Author, Poet and a thrilling international speaker.
During his last visit to Chicago he presented at Chinmaya Mission Chicago a talk on
"Art of Happy Home and Family". During his talk he gave ten point
practical advise for house holder to make the home a happy home. He concentrated on
developing the understanding for the others (Not with mind but with heart). Here are
excerpts of the ten points
- Avoid the next quarrel: Never lose
temper at the same time. Don't let the sun set on your quarrels (Never prolong fights if
at all started). It is OK to say "I am sorry" to your spouse.
- Do not expect perfection from your spouse:
Marriage is coming together of two imperfect beings. Don't expect wife or husband to like
this or that, accept them as they are.
- Be a Good Listener: Don't interrupt
your spouse when he/she is speaking. Think before speaking, it is a good idea to weigh
before you speak. You are master of unspoken words but slave of spoken words. Better than
listening from ear is listening through mind (with attention) and better than that is
listening from heart.
- Be a good forgiver: Some people
forgive but they keep the memory alive or they forgive conditionally. Forgiveness should
be complete and unconditional.
- Grow in the spirit of humility: Be
humble. Egos bring arrogance which divide and separate people.
- Learn the art of appreciation: We all
like to be appreciated. Not being appreciated by the spouses is one of the biggest
complaint. Always appreciate in front of others. Never criticize your in a company of
friends and relatives, you will get opportunities in privacy.
- Do not argue: Winning love and
friendship is far greater than winning an argument. It is OK to discuss with a open mind.
Learn to win love and affection rather than arguments.
- Develop healthy sense of humor: Learn
to laugh and be cheerful. It is a great tonic for healthy living and being accepted by
friends. It is important to laugh with others and NOT at others.
- Always lend a helpful hand: You will
win over if you have this attitude of offering a helpful hand with or without asking.
- Bring GOD back into your home: This
is one of the most important one. Have a common time for prayers. It brings families
together. Families that pray together stays together.